Wow. Really? Now we are supposed to foresee our husband leaving and not paying support? What if he died? Oh, it's ok if you're disabled, ok. But not if you've been laid off? This isn't a matter of political points of view. It's about being realistic. Tell me, in the scenario with the money I outlined, what would YOU do? Your husband left and you can't find him. Should you hook or drug deal before turning to your "handout" in the way of child care subsidy? Because, of course, it's your own fault he left, because you should have chosen a better mate. THIS makes me nauseous, to think that anyone thinks an abused woman deserves to be penniless because of her choice of mate.

And, again, you mention that if you can't afford the daycare, then you should not have kids. What if you already have the kids? Do you...what? Give them up for adoption? You are not thinking clearly. You are thinking from a position of privilege.

ETA: I hope your kids don't attend public school. Because if they do, under your watchful eye, you should probably pay back all the childless couples you're mooching off of.