Praying for your entire family during this extremely difficult time. I also have a father that is an alcoholic. We no longer live in the same city, so I haven't had to set up daily boundaries although in the past I have. So I can relate to how difficult that situation can be.
I've noticed that many of us providers have a parent who is an alcoholic. I wonder if our ability/desire to care for others might stem from this. I was always a mediator between my parents and spent a good portion of my childhood caring for my siblings. A bit off topic I know, but I couldn't help but think of it reading all the replies.