Need advice on how to handle a mother of a child in my daycare please!

[dragonlady3]

It is not surprising that you are upset. We providers rely heavily on our hard won reputations and one person bad-mouthing, and a friend, can hurt our business...and our hearts. I am really sorry you had to experience this but you will find many more reasonable parents that will appreciate your efforts. If any of your other friends ask what happened, just tell them that the child was ready to take her next step into maturity, but her mom just loved her too much to 'let go' yet, so you both have agreed to disagree. She may continue her 'dis' but you will have the moral high ground and be better able to move on with your business. Again, I am really sorry to hear about this difficulty. Good luck with the next child...

[Skysue]

That is so unfair, I'm sorry that you worked so hard to get slapped in the face. Just reminde yourself you are doing an amazing job and she is no way nor has ever been you frriend! She is a user by the sounds of it! I hope for her sake she gets an honest daycare provider in the future who will tell he like it is. For you good luck and move on.

Experience is the name given to mistakes. Your only mistake was doing everything you could for a friend, that makes you a great person, so don't beat yourself up.

[fruitloop]

That really sucks but if the mom can't see that what she is doing is not good for the child and pulls her out over that, then she is the one with the problem. She is also not a good friend or any kind of friend for that matter if she acts like that over what should be happening at your day home. This is why you should NEVER take on a friend's child...never a good idea!

[Tinkerbell]

After 4 weeks she would have got her letter of termination here. I also have a strict policy...STOP...DROP-OFF...RUN! Drop-offs cannot exceed 5 minutes...final! YOU run the show...not her!

[Isawitfirst]

I know it is not the subject of the original post but learn from this example. Never take friends, neighbors or relatives as clients - it can sometimes end badly.

[Care]

I'm so sorry you have to go through this... and also I'm sorry for the child because a 'goodbye' that takes long is tough for all involved. I have had several parents that decided not to say goodbye at all, well ..... that doesn't help!! So I now give all parents instructions in my (written) policy, a short goodbye and they hand the kid to me and our 'little ritual' is that I wave the parent goodbye with the kid at the window. It works (accept for 1 dad that keeps lingering, he has a hard time with his child crying, the kid is the only one with separation anxiety... it has a lot to do with the way the parents have a cheerful and trusting attitude in the themselves)

[jec]

Wow ~ she will have a difficult time finding a daycare provider that will let her stay like that in their home. You have every right to be upset- you came to everyone here to find solutions to help her daughter and make a situation better. When talking to your friends who have told you that this lady is saying bad things- just that you were seeking advise to help her daughter. Take the high road like dragonlady3 said- for the sake of your business.
Sorry you had to go through this