High Needs/Very Sensitive DC Toddler

[sunnydays]

DCmama12, this is exaclty what happened to me! Parents started getting frustrated...saying it wasn't like that at home. I was never sure if she was truly different or home or if the parents were just used to it so it seemed normal for them.

[mom-in-alberta]

Yikes. I hate crazy, screaming arrivals.
If it was working to have them bring the twins separately, I would insist upon that for a longer period. Let mom/dad know that you can try again in a little while (a few weeks/months), but for now, the safety of the children is what you need to be concerned about.

[dragonlady3]

Thanks...much appreciated!

[Ann]

My Son is now 8 years old.Now in studying in a Private school in North Toronto.When he used to go to his preschool, he was quite upset.It seemed like he hated his preschool (or may be its because he missed me!).He used to refuse to have food from there.It took about 4 months to finally adjust to the new environment.He found his new friends and i found him happy again.Some kids are like this .They like to be in the shade of their parents!It takes time for them to adjust...Give them some space and time!

[Judy Trickett]

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I am also a big believer in food intolerances and kid's behaviour being affected if they have one. Now, that being said, it is a whole other ballgame to get the parents on board with that.

All I can say is this.......about three years ago I had a set of twins leave my care (they went off to school) after being here since they were 12mths old. The one twin was HORRIBLE from the day she arrived until the day she left. She was much like the child you describe. She was never, EVER happy. I can not tell you the number of times I came close to terminating care but I stuck with it because the other twin was sweet and I felt bad for her having to pay for her sister's horrible behaviour and attitude.

Anyway, that said, I SWORE to myself, Never Again! If I ever had a child like the one you describe in care ever again I WOULD terminate and move on. It's too mentally taxing and it affects you and the other kids in care and it creates a hostile, unhappy environment for everyone. So, if her parents are not on board with fixing it then cut them loose.

You say the other kids cover their ears. THAT is a sign that she needs to go. Imagine being the parent of one of the other kids. How would you feel if every day you paid someone to care for your child and then found out your child spent the entire day listening to some kid scream to the point that your child had to cover his ears and ask the child to stop? If you were that parent you would pull your child out of that care arrangement.

This child is a liability to your daycare. Not ALL kids are suited to group care. And not all providers are suited to caring for kids like this. You are also worthy of enjoying your days as well and not have a constant screaming child in your midst who has been given every opportunity and an environment to thrive. I know it's a child but you are also a person with needs and you DESERVE to be happy too.

She needs to go.