Hi All,

I just signed up for the Forum but I've been browsing posts for over a year

Looking for tips and/or advice.

I have a 17mth old DC child that I've been caring for for almost 5 months now. She had A LOT of seperation anxiety when she first started the daycare and it got much worse before it finally settled down just over 2 months into it. She is VERY vocal about her dislikes and eventhough you tend to her and meet her needs, once she starts crying, it usually last at least a few minutes. All was good for a couple of months and then BAM it's been one thing after another since.

-She is also a child that does not like any other kids in her personal bubble (eventhough mom and dad socialized her very well from birth)
-She would wake up during nap screaming at the top of her lungs, the first few times I'd go in and rock her back to sleep because this was abnormal but mom and I finally decided to let her work it out on her own since it was getting worse and at night too. She eventually worked it out
-She screams bloody murder if another DC child goes near her or her toys. I've read up on this and try reassuring her that it's ok, no one is going to hurt her but it's getting worse and now my 15month old is starting to run to her and grab her face when she's screaming, possibly from being annoyed that she's screaming all the time or taking most of the attention? I'm not sure so now I have two crying toddlers because I obviously try to show my toddler that she can't grab another child's face like that. Hard to get words accross over that noise.
-She has zero patience, I know most toddlers don't but she screams for 5 minutes if were heading outside and I let another DC child out ahead of her or if I'm in the middle of making lunch and she decides she wants milk NOW or wants out of her highchair etc.
-Today I moved her highchair while she was still in it (6 inches over) and she lost it for a good 10 minutes
-If I tend to another DC at the toilet or bring someone to bed before her and leave her sight or turn around at the kitchen sink while she's in her highchair she loses it 95% of the time
-Mom has mentioned that she loses it if mom leaves her with dad
-She has started losing it when mom hands her to me at morning drop off, kicking and screaming to get out of my arms but as soon as mom leaves, I sit with her to read a book, she's totally fine and plays silly games with me (this morning giving me eskimo kisses)
-If we're outside, she's like a totally different child, kids can go near her, I don't need to be a foot away, when I say it's time to head in she follows...
-I noticed she was piercing two top molars 3 weeks ago, she only has two bottom teeth so this will be a long road if teeth are causing these behaviors
-She often has very soft poops (2-3/day) or diarrhea and fruits and veggies are rarely digested in her poop, could it be a food intelorence that's causing her pain and it makes her irritable?

I'm at a loss, I just don't know what to do anymore. I've tried reassuring her, ignoring the behaviors, giving her more attention etc. nothing seems to work...my 3 older DC kids have been blocking their ears or questionning why she cries all the time, when is it too much? She's a great kid when she's in a good mood, funny and quirky and she has AWESOME easy going friendly parents...any tips? What should I do? Some days I'm drained...

Thanks!