So, I've had dcg for 3 years. My daughters the same age. They're best friends and adore each other. Dcg recently had a birthday. Mom tells me this year she's not having a party because she thinks kids party's are stupid. Anyhow, she lives 4 houses away from me and on dcg's birthday there are balloons outside, parents bringing kids in, etc. This is fine of course. The thing is the following week other kids from my daycare are telling my daughter 'we were invited to so and so's birthday party and YOU weren't. That's because so and so's mom thinks you're stupid and doesn't like you!' Its not my business at all. She can do whatever she likes for her family. But my 4.5 year olds feelings are very hurt because she loves her best friend, loves the family and admires dcg's mom and the worst thing is the other dck's rubbing it in her face(they're 3 and 6 and understand bring mean). I spoke to the kids about being kind and that we do not try to upset soneone by saying hurtful things.
Now this dcg has been saying 'my mom found me a new best friend her name is XXXX. Her mommy and my mommy drink lots of wine together and me and XXXX play.'
I know they're young and will make new friends, drift away from old friends and maintain status quo with other friends. My girl feels really left out and hurt right now. And I've tried comforting her but its difficult to explain to a 4 year old. I'm not trying to be petty because honestly, its not my business what other people do. I haven't said anything to dcm but I'm wondering why she would do things this way.