I had a child in care with a peanut/tree nut allergy and I learned to read labels. It isn't hard to switch to crackers, bread and a few other prepackaged products that are made in nut-free facilities. Everything else I make is from scratch so it wasn't a big problem for me. But my little one had to carry around an epipen everywhere and still does because her allergy is very serious.

If your dc child is allergic and you don't want to change your food products then for everyone's sake can you replace the family? Do you really want to take the chance on being responsible for a child who could go into anaphalactic shock?

Have you tried the soy butter as a replacement for pb? It's pretty good.