Due Diligence Question

[busydaycarelady]

I've termed twice. Once for a nonstop, all day long crier after trying for 4 months and the other was because of an out of control 7 year old - I'd had her 2.5 years and she just steadily got worse over the years because mom and dad didn't actually want to be real parents they seemed to want me to instill values and manners in their child. It got so bad this child would color on my furniture, smear feces on my walls and the final straw was her spitting in my face. She was exactly like this at home. Parents also bathed this kid maybe, MAYBE once a week, so the poor kid smelled just awful. After trying for literally 2.5 years to help this child and help these ninnies learn how to be unselfish, attentive parents, I was very frustrated to say the least. So once that child spit in my face, I called mom, termed on the spot and told her she needed to get child immediately and that said child was sitting by the door with shoes and coat on. The worst thing is, mom showed up telling me this is normal for a 7 year old. After that, I had to tell her politely, but firmly how I felt and what I felt was needed for this child from the PARENTS. She needed to hear it. Was it hard? Very. But I also felt relieved and that I had fulfilled my 'due diligence' because these people NEEDED to know that this child was a product of their lack of parenting. So as hard as it is, I think I would disclose the real reason why because hopefully it will help the parents help the child