Feeling a bit bored?

[dodge__driver11]

My husband for the most part is a great help, and we are ok, but since we have gotten back from the in-laws he has been horrible in regards to picking up after himself...etc....

So he is working weekends this week, and I am sending ds to a friend's and just going to do something other than stress about his non-sense!

Good luck!

[Daycare123]

My husband is amazing- he is supportive and very helpful and it really does help when I have had a long work week

Had a great day with the kids today-feeling less isolated from talking to all of you!

thanks!

[playfelt]

Socially I am finding it rough too because most of our friends have moved on and we haven't. All my own kids are older and out of the house except our youngest who is 20 years old but with special needs. What I find when we do go out as I am at a loss as to where I belong. I notice it with the events our church puts on. There are some events for retired people over 50 which is my age bracket and they go out to lunch or get together in an afternoon to craft for the Christmas bazaar but I am still working. They have mom and tot programs but too far away for me to go and for any similar playgroup there is a no one over 6 rule at most of them so Brianne can't come and her wheelchair would not be welcome anyways just as no strollers are allowed. The church has evening gatherings for the younger woman but it is people who talk about their corporate jobs and brag about their kids high school exploits. My problem is my only hope is a group for grandmas raising their grandchildren I think and that leaves me not really even fitting in with that group but at least I can identify with them just not with the family issues.

My point is I don't belong anywhere. I can discuss teething and diaper rash with the ladies the same age as my own kids, dream of retiring soon with others closing in on 55, dream of going someplace warm for several months of the year just because and knowing my reality is I will still be able to do all those things when I am 65 just because Brianne will always be like having a 15-18 month old in the house. Being military means I have a lot of associates but no real friends. The few I have are email or occasional chats and yearly visits and that is it. On the day to day I feel like I live in a bubble most of the time. If it wasn't for my workshops I do it would be even worse.

[Momof4]

Spixie, I hear you, my grandson was in my first group of daycare children and I have an entirely new group now. It took me a while to get going with the new group with the same enthusiasm and I'm sure that's how all of you feel when one of your own children goes off to JK. We tend to put the extra effort into our days when we have a loved one of our own in the daycare I suppose.

So after a few months of feeling bad about everything I made a plan and I'm still sticking with it. One craft a week with a learning day inside which means I'm moving slowly and letting the children free play a lot, that's my down day. The rest of the week if the weather co-operates we're out to play at parks and I've learned that the walking and being outside, even though I'm not doing much except supervising is good for me.

I too spend a lot of time checking into the forums first thing in the a.m. as the children arrive, while I eat my lunch and after afternoon snack while the children freeplay and we have pickups. It's great to have the virtual support systems in place as well as real friends to meet up with regularly.

But I read at naptime and I keep busy all evening so my days fly by. I said it before and I'll say it again. Don't be bored ladies, there's always something to do and ways to fill your days. Can't you get some housework done during the day while watching the children so that you don't have to do it after work?

[Judy Trickett]

I said it before and I'll say it again. Don't be bored ladies, there's always something to do and ways to fill your days. Can't you get some housework done during the day while watching the children so that you don't have to do it after work?

I think what the ladies are saying here is that it's MENTAL boredom. I am an intellectual type. And by that I am not saying those that are not intellectual types are less smart it's just a personality type. So, for me, being an intellectual type I need high amounts of mental stimulation and, well, kids just can't provide that.

There is no amount of laundry or cleaning that can make up for a deficit of mental stimulation.

[playfelt]

I'm with Judy. I can only rhyme off Very Hungry Caterpillar or Brown Bear Brown Bear while folding a tub of laundry so many days - yes favourite books are memerized. Twinkle Twinkle Little Star no matter how many ways you wave stars or use figures it is still the same song and year after year gets a little draining. Problem after awhile is that there is no such thing as a new song or new game as everything is just a variation of something you have already done.

Doesn't mean anything because we still smile and sing it again but we do heave a heavier sigh of relief when naptime comes or the little darlings go home for the night.

[Daycare123]

Yeah I REALLY want to clarify - cleaning my house is not going to help- it is neither social nor is it mentally stimulating in the least! I am an extrovert and find working a job where I often don't have the option of leaving the house a bit taxing. I enjoy working fro home - but working with young kids that aren't your own means you have to stick close to daycare for the most part.

[Judy Trickett]

Yeah I REALLY want to clarify - cleaning my house is not going to help- it is neither social nor is it mentally stimulating in the least! I am an extrovert and find working a job where I often don't have the option of leaving the house a bit taxing. I enjoy working fro home - but working with young kids that aren't your own means you have to stick close to daycare for the most part.

I think a lot of it is the endless dribble as well. I guess that would be the case in ANY job where there is no opportunity for advancement. I hear the same dribble from the dckids, the same dribble year after year from the parents. The same questions get asked, the same answers are offered. The same parental fears come up and the same fears are soothed.

The same phases are gone through with the same outcomes..........it 's like eventually I could write a timetable for every dcparent with exactly the month that their child will do this or that and when the parents will ask me about this or that. It's like I can forecast the next 4 years of theirs and their child's daycare and home life. B-O-R-I-N-G.

[playfelt]

I actually knew a daycare provider that took shifts at a local restaurant on the weekends. Hubby was home to be with the kids and she loved the mental stimulation of remembering who ordered what and the fast pace of the environment and the amount of talking and people she met. Gave her extra spending money too.

[torontokids]

Interesting this post resurfaced. I just signed up for an adult ed class to learn how ot sew. There were so many options of classes and I am looking forward to it.