I don't call the parents to pick up and I don't tell them the child cried all day. Lots of carrying from after snack to pick up so child looks happier if possible. I know that crying all day is normal for many kids that have not been socialized and things will get better. Sometimes it is better when the parents don't know the truth.

As to how long I would let it go on well I learned long ago to tune it out and I give criers two naps a day as often being over tired is one of the reasons for not being able to settle and it gives the rest of us a break. Have never had a child that didn't eventually get with the program even if it did take a few months.

When she puts her hands up to be picked up I would be more inclined to simply take her hand and hold her close to me rather than pick her up so I am still there for security but not doing the coping for her by carrying. Also newbies often like to sit in a high chair in the playroom at first so they are up and snuggled by the chair and looking down on the play just as if they were being carried.