Quote Originally Posted by playfelt View Post
Getting parents to realize that it is their behaviour that is causing the issues is one of my pet peeves. When I ask a child to do something I expect it to be followed to the letter. So often a parent says get your shoes but then the child asks for a hug and gets one. The parent of course doesn't see the problem until it gets pointed out. Depending on the parent when I see this about to happen at pick up I will say something with the idea of childA you were asked to get your shoes. You need to do as you are told. Then I will turn to the parent and tell them that I am working on important skills such a staying on task, listening and then following through.
I completely get what you are saying. The parent fails to recognize the diversion tactic being used. When that one works, other tactics are used too, such as ignoring, denying, minimizing, lying etc as the child grows up.. You put that very well to the parent and child. You are more diplomatic than me with the parents. Thank you for aiding me in learning a vital skill.