Daycare is expensive already, so that could be a reason why those providers don't increase their rates. It's also competitive, so providers would want to makes sure that they're in line with what others are charging.

"One friend hasn't increased in 6 years, another in 9 years and yet another in 10 years...........not one of them." This seems to bother you. If they're content with what they're charging, why do you care?

"Yet everyone else on the planet gets a raise, heck my husband is making a whopping 55% more than he was just 9 years ago.......I mean YEAH me, but am I expected to never get a raise............and why do I feel so bad about even asking for one. In every other job I have had I have received a raise almost every year........inflatio n happens, cost of housing has gone up, cost of gas, cost of groceries but I may have to stay at this salary for NINE YEARS???????" So if you feel you should be charging more, then charge more. Why are you complaining and whining about it. It's YOUR business, charge whatever the hell you want. When parents choose other providers over you, don't complain either.

"Sometimes I wish we had a UNION." Then go get a unionized job. You're self-employed, therefore you set your own rates. Obviously ppl in the workforce working for companies will get raises, you own your own business, nobody is going to just pay you more, use your discretion and charge accordingly.