Termination by Provider - am I still required to pay?

[ladyjbug]

Devil's advocate here.

While I totally agree that I would refund in this case of immediate termination (or at least not charge), I would (and have) called parents' bluff when they threaten to terminate if they don't agree with me on things. I don't want their money. I don't want any accusations. I just want them out. If you are at the point of making threats to terminate, you should not be bringing your child back ever. This is my personal opinion, but the provider's monetary situation should have no bearing on how long you would force your son to stay in a care situation you didn't feel was right for him. As a mom, if it was the wrong place for my kid, he wouldn't be going back the day I realized that. This is the red flag that this post is bringing up for me. This is the part that is not necessarily ringing true for me. It also sounds like you are trying to say that this behavior is because of the dayhome. If these problems truly were not a part of my day and I had watched this child over a year, yeah, I could see that provider taking it as an accusation and offensively.


I do not necessarily think that home behaviors are related to dayhome behaviors in every case. The provider may have been telling you the truth when she says it wasn't an issue at their house. Many times I have had parents shake their head at how WELL their child behaves here and how I can get them to do things they never could. So many children that fall asleep easily and without complaint for a soother. So many kids that eat their vegetables. That say please and thank you and WOULD NEVER EVER talk back to me, or hit me, or bite me, etc. etc. etc.. These things are shocking to these parents because they can't get the kid to do it at home for them. So maybe she wasn't willing to work with you on these problems, because they were really not problems for her. The amount of children she takes on, as long as she is within ratio and within legal numbers really isn't your business. If she isn't being legal about things, her agency will be having words with her and she won't be licensed for long. I just feel you are reaching in some places in your post.

It sounds like you have had a bad experience and I hope you and your son find a great place to accommodate his needs. I just think there are two sides to every story. And yes, once again, if I am not willing to provide the care for the termination period, I refund so I would chat with the agency about that.