We arranged a series of playdates where our prospective caregiver could see our son interacting with others before we came to an agreement regarding some part-time care. There were some issues as our boy hasn't been highly socialized (he's 2). However, we were assured and all agreed that it appeared that he was settling in quicker with each successive playdate. We had our first day of full care and it was a complete disaster. I was told that he was aggressive with the other kids and had had several dramatic meltdowns. Caregiver suggests that this arrangement may not work. I can totally appreciate that she feels that it may not be the best situation for either of them.

How long do you give a child, that is brand new to care in general, to settle in before suggesting termination? How do I go about finding a better situation if we are terminated? We are only doing full care during my training period for my new job (expected to be approx. one week) and will then switch to part time care for approx 20 afternoon hours over 4 days a week.