We may be terminated by the end of our second day...

[jammiesandtea]

I'm sorry but I have to take issue with these criticisms of being "too harsh", and for the moderator to remind us to be respectful. I suspect that my (earlier) response on this thread is likely one of the responses being chastised as "harsh", but it is not harsh, it is just honest and un-sugar-coated, and it's meant to HELP the original poster to understand what her 2 year old child needs from her in the way of training to prepare him to have any hope of success transitioning to group care. The woman's child was in danger of being terminated after his first couple of days of daycare, due to (in her own words) his lack of socialization, his aggression, and his dramatic meltdowns. She may WANT her hand held and to be told that she's done everything right and everything will be A-OK, but what she NEEDS is some tough love to set her on the right track for the discipline and socialization of her son.

I'm getting so tired of the way this forum often seems to shift over to the Everything's-Rosy-and-Sunshine-and-Lollipops mentality, and those of us who offer a more honest and non-sugar-coated opinion are labeled "disrespectful". I am not disrespectful just because I may have an opinion that you disagree with or that doesn't align with your "I want advice as long as it's what I want to hear" mindset.

I'm also very annoyed at the way this forum seems to be very biased towards the occasional parent who posts here, rather than the many providers who make up the vast majority of the traffic on these boards. The moderator(s) will jump in and defend a parent (or wait way too long to chastise or ban them, or even to remove their defamatory posts), but are quick to remind us providers to be respectful to them, even though 99.9% of us ARE respectful; we're merely pointing out (in this case) the flaws in their parenting skills or philosophies, as they relate to having a child in group care.

[torontokids]

I don't disagree with you Jammies. What I am tired of though is the "parent bashing" that happens on here. When a parent does ask a question a lot of the time lately the providers are quick to look for "discrepancies" in their story and defend the provider. I get that we need to "defend our own" especially in today's climate of home daycare's and their portrayal in the media but I think on the forum the scale is often tipped too much to the point of being annoying.

There is also an air of "I am a better parent then other parents because I chose to stay home with my kids." Which I am not sure if this is merely opinion or an insecurity. I know I am a good parent but this doesn't mean I am a better parent then the parents of the children I care for just because I spend my days with my kids. Sorry to take the conversation off course.