Moderating the forum

[jammiesandtea]

There was definitely a post about being locked in a crate, Jammies. The parent did not pull that wording out of thin air. I remember it clearly and am still shocked. I can see the parent poster taking some offense to Playfelt's post, but Island29 did not call out playfelt for writing the post. Also playfelt's post is in response to daycarewhisperer's post and she softens it a bit while alluding to the fact that a previous poster mentioned that daycare is not the place for learning to socialize. That is daycarewhisperer's inflammatory post, that is now removed.

I went back again and you're absolutely right, ladyjbug. I apologize, I missed that.

Island29's post clearly references Daycarewhisperer's post as being outrageous, but there is no longer a post by Daycarewhisperer prior to Island29's post. So there was obviously a post by Daycarewhisperer that was deleted, by somebody.

[daycarewhisperer]

I went back again and you're absolutely right, ladyjbug. I apologize, I missed that.

Island29's post clearly references Daycarewhisperer's post as being outrageous, but there is no longer a post by Daycarewhisperer prior to Island29's post. So there was obviously a post by Daycarewhisperer that was deleted, by somebody.

I wish the mods would just put the posts back already. Sheesh

I don't appreciate being attributed to the crate comment at all. The MOM used that phrase. I did not. I didn't imply it either.

[Cadillac]

OMG!!!!

I gotta say: When I first came to this forum a couple years ago, it was phenomenal!!! People REALLY and TRULY helped one another. I remember post after post of cute things provider's kids would do, sharing stories, and when someone had a question if was actually freakin ANSWERED!!!!!

I stopped posting so often, even stopped checking up on the site because of what has happened. There are people here who have gotten some sort of god complex along the way. questions stopped being answered, people started getting mauled when the poster didn't have the whole story! (because honestly, if your only asking about 'xyz' why do you need to know the rest of the alphabet?) people forget that when unfoundingly changing the subject from the question about the child and start belittling the provider . . . or parent for that matter.

I could literally post a question about how to get a child to eat bananas and I bet anything by the end of the thread I'd be questioned on my menu, told I was a terrible provider and even told to terminate the freakin family . . . over a freakin BANANA

The fact that there are moderators on this site should tell you ladies something . . . . SOMETHING IS WRONG!

these thread are no longer discussions that are helpful, its no longer reading different opinions and have debates or discussions, its BULLYING!!!!! down right bullying.

So you got what you some of you really really need . . . a freakin' recess monitor.

deal with it . . . . because it is soooo needed here.

[Cadillac]

and i'll add. if you don't like what is going on here please leave, stop posting . . .find a new forum . . . I'd love to come back and start posting with the people ive come to adore without having to read a bunch of child-ish cat fights.

[mimi]

daycarewhisperer, since we are able to see our former posts on our account page, why not just copy and paste your posts that you made earlier in this thread and that should settle your claim that you did not say crate..........then end of.

[daycarewhisperer]

daycarewhisperer, since we are able to see our former posts on our account page, why not just copy and paste your posts that you made earlier in this thread and that should settle your claim that you did not say crate..........then end of.

I pulled up my account and clicked on posts and there is only one in that thread. If it is deleted can I still find it? Can you tell me how to get to account page?

[mimi]

I clicked on my user name and then former posts.

[daycarewhisperer]

I clicked on my user name and then former posts.

I did that but there is only one post on there for that thread. I didn't pull a post so it had to be done by mods.

The MOM used the phrase locked up in a crate. I didn't.

I wouldn't assume an unsocialized kid who was getting tossed out of ddaycare on day one because he was aggressive and had epic meltdowns was locked up in a cage while at home. It wouldn't have crossed my mind.

[mamaof4]

I reinstated the post I deleted. I stand by my decision that it was unhelpful to the parent so I will delete it again shortly.

This thread is turning into a finger pointing mess. We are adults. We are intelligent. We have different opinions. This is great- but be kind.

Tone is really hard to read on the web through simple text so double check you posts to see if you could say what you wanted to say more kindly.

[sunnydays]

Wow. Honestly I believe I wil be joining Judy and heading out of here. This kind of ridiculous cat fighting is not what I come to this forum for. I have been taking a bit of a break anyway because I found the negativity was starting to get to me. I think I may just make the break permanent. I chose to work from home in part to get away from this kind of office drama and I certainly don't intend to get dragged into it now. Who cares who said what and when and why and to whom??!! Really! Good luck to those of you who are here to give and recieve advice and support rather than drama. I wish you all the best.