I can totally relate to this thread from the parent side. Was hoping for some tips on this recently. My daughter is 22 months old and has recently (1 month ago) switched to center care from a home daycare setting. She had no issues with the transition and really seems to be thriving in the new daycare center. BUT, when I pick her up she is a monster. I hate to say it but she doesn't listen, runs away or throws a temper tantrum if I try to carry her out. Runs straight for the road knowing this is bad and when I run after her she laughs an evil laugh and goes limp when I try picking her up or flails about making it super difficult to carry her to the car. I was walking to pick her up for the first few weeks but the walk home was so brutal I don't bother most days anymore.

The daycare staff all tell me she is great, happy and listens all day, naps well, eats well, etc. My old home daycare provider told me the same. She was cranky previously for the first hour after pick up but nothing like this. Usually when we get home she starts to listen and behave better but from pick up to home is a nightmare.

We do discipline as much as possible for her age (I think). Use time outs when necessary, take away something she enjoys, talk to her about her behaviour and praise her good behaviour as much as possible. She is really smart and I know she knows exactly what she's doing. We are not pushovers or "soft" with her. She doesn't get her way by screaming, etc (never has). I am at a loss at times on what to do with her because she is so unruly during this time and almost all other times she is such a good girl.

I know terrible two's are a real problem and this is likely a phase (please please be a phase) but any suggestions you can provide would be much appreciated.

Thanks!