Am I supposed to believe that??

[JennJubie]

Yesterday I noticed that my one dcb's voice was getting raspy and that he was crankier than normal. I mentioned to my husband that I thought he was getting sick. So he comes today, and he's raspy and coughing, sneezing, but no fever. He's super cranky today, too. I put everyone down for nap, (he's a pretty good napper), and he wakes maybe 35 minutes into nap time SCREAMING inconsolably. He's been screaming ever since. I call Mom, and she seems shocked and when I asked if she noticed if he seemed off at all today, (I noticed yesterday!), she says "No! He seemed fine to me!". I'm not happy because I can't believe that a parent doesn't know when their own child is ill. Now I have EVERYONE awake and crying.

[mimi]

"no, he seemed fine to me" translation - yeah I noticed he wasn't well, but I was hoping he didn't get worse because I don't want to take a day off work and I was hoping you would just let it slide and not call. Plus I am going to make you second guess yourself by telling you that I, his mother, noticed no change in him.

Hope you have a good night JennJubie

[Other Mummy]

I think we've all had a dcp like that. I sure did! See if he spikes a fever in the next hour or so. Then the gig is up! She drugged and dropped.

Is she at least coming to pick him up? Poor kid. I'm sure all he wanted today was him mom and his own bed.

[JennJubie]

She's been great about everything else. This is the first time I've ever had any issue... but I'm still very irritated. I find it hard to believe you can miss a raspy voice, coughing, crankiness, sneezing and a runny nose. Even if it is ONLY a cold, he is still feeling ill and that is most definitely noticeable.

[apples and bananas]

I think some times parents are so busy with their own lives during the week they miss what's happening with their kids. She may not have noticed the raspy, or just chalked the sneezing up to allergies... or maybe she didn't hear him do it at all.

Some of my parents pick up at 5:30/6 and put to bed by 7. If it's not bath night then there isn't really a lot of one on one interaction. In the morning they're up, dressed, in the high chair eating while mom's doing her make up then scooped up and off to daycare we go.

I'm not ignoring the fact that there are many dose and droppers out there. I've had them myself.

But I think the bigger problem is that parents just aren't spending time with their kids at night.

If I get inconsolable crying, the child goes home. 1. I can't be holding a child that's inconsolable all afternoon. 2. if they're inconsolable and it's out of their character then something is wrong.

[JennJubie]

I did think about that apples and bananas. It is possible she just didn't notice. I just hate being questioned, though. I made a judgement call. This little guy is NEVER grumpy. Everyone at our bus stop calls him "Mr Smiley" so when he is inconsolable I know there is something wrong with him. Be it a tooth trying to make an appearance or feeling ill, something was off today. I had my Avon lady come to my door while I was waiting for his Mom and he lost his mind when I opened the door and he saw it wasn't her

[JennJubie]

Plus, I have to add: we are trusted to take care of their children, but are we not trusted to notice when they don't seem like themselves?