Yes! That sounds like a good plan and I've tried all these "gimmicks" and they work on a per day basis and next day it just goes back to same old. Problem is the dcb is always dressed with shoes on but when mom comes in and makes herself comfortable, he sits on her lap and starts taking his shoes off. It's such a drag and I'm not a confrontational person so it's tough for me to be blunt. Issue too is that he acts up once mom steps foot in the door and goes crazy so then my kids feed off that and go nutty too and it's just insane. He's even gotten to the point that he runs to my kitchen and helps himself to cupboard snacks and brings everything to mom (wants to open box of cookies, etc). Today I got a bit ticked off by this as I won't tolerate that behaviour. My kids are entitled to help themselves because its their home but dckids are not. She just watches and laughs "you're so silly". There's even been times where my lil one was crying like crazy and the dcmom continued to go on with her stories as though she didn't hear crying in the background. Arghhhhh!