This is the exact issue I have been having in my day home! It seems like since my youngest dhk has turned 2 they have turned into a little monster. He riles up the other's under 3 and they go on a behaving badly spree of throwing toys at each other, climbing on things in the playroom and shoving each other off, etc. Time outs don't seem to work most days.

One of the older children constantly back talks and questions everything I ask, for example I'll say "okay guys, it's time to clean up the playroom so we can be ready for snack" and this child will whine (they whine everything almost) WHY???? So I ask if they heard what I said, "no". I'm getting very frustrated with most of the kids in my care, and I'm thinking it's just because of these two children, who shockingly are siblings.

Some days I wonder if I'm way too strict, but a. I don't believe children should be catered to and need to learn structure and how to do things themselves and b. I'm pretty sure there's not a lot of rules or discipline (ie. consequences for actions) at home.

Any tips?? Thanks!