What do you ladies think builds a secure child!

[Daisy123]

I like routine and a schedule with the kids. They need to know what to expect which I find also lends to security. We'll often talk about our upcoming day during circle time. That being said, however, I really do agree that kids also need to be able to go with the flow too. Things happen and plans get changed... that's life. I think that the difference lies with how the adults deal with the changes. If mom flies into a frenzy because dinner isn't ready by 5, it's the stress that the kids absorb. I've encountered a lot of kids who seem wound up and tense and who are constantly edgy. I also remember one particular little guy I taught when I worked at a school who would show up with mismatched clothes and bedhead but he constantly had a grin on his face and he had the most easy going personality I ever encountered. Happy balances...