My husband has a sister, but she's not of any help. She pops in from time to time, bitches about things... yells at her mother... and then forgets how to answer a phone for a month at a time. She's more concerned about her own life. We've tried to arrange care many times for my MIL, she refuses any help that is offered. She refuses to leave her house, even after the nurse and doctor at the hospital have flat out told her she'll be back in hospital within a month of release if she doesn't accept the respite care. She doesn't want the respite care because she won't leave her cat with anyone but us.