How to say goodbye

[5 Little Monkeys]

2 years is a long time, I say you gave it a very fair shot and it just isn't working out. Sometimes kids just don't fit into your daycare and that is okay! It is no different than an adult not fitting into a certain workplace. I would go with the "it will be better for your child to be in a dc he likes" approach and hope for the best!

[mimi]

It sounds like life is hell already, at least if you term you can look forward to maybe a sighting of heaven LOL. I would take 5 little monkeys advice and just say he needs to be in a daycare he likes (I feel sorry for his new provider already!!!)

[Momof4]

5Little Monkeys has a good point. When I terminated a child last spring I told the parent that I can't help them because I'd tried for a year and a half. I told them I hoped they would be happy with a new caregiver and things like that. I couldn't tell them that I'd tried and tried and they weren't doing anything so I had to admit to myself that I had to give up - we can't say that!

[madmom]

It is done, I gave her notice at the door with it in writing as well. It was HORRIBLE she started to cry and left upset, then texted me that he won't be coming back as she doesn't want him anywhere he's not wanted. I felt like a total heel. then I started remembering all he has done to me and the other children and realized it's for the best. The Mom had also asked for a receipt for the year in total the week before I gave notice...I wonder if she was looking for a subsidized spot somewhere? Why else would she need a receipt mid year? Thoughts anyone

[mimi]

It is for the best and kudos to you for making a good business decision. Yeah, it sounds like something was up with the request for a receipt, however..........who cares, they are done. Have a wonderful week!

[madmom]

Thanks to everyone for their support, it was really a difficult situation. Today is Monday and to be honest it was the best Monday I have had in a really long time, lunch was actually pleasant, and we played at Cosmic and it was actually peaceful not having to correct his behavior 100times

[Neen]

He has been with me 2 years but the behaviors are getting worse every passing month. He IS always in time out so I have to assume he doesn't like it here anymore. It will be a relief for sure. But I know life will be hell once I give notice so I am dreading it

Wow!! I'm dealing with something similar at the moment too. I dread the child being dropped off! My heart starts racing, I can feel all my muscles tens up, I start shaking, its just terrible!!! I don't look forward to the whole "gotta let you go" speech, but I know I will start liking my job again once I do. Plus I know there is a better family waiting for a great day home to come to. I'm sure this will be the same for you too. Good luck with it all!!!!

[daycaremom9]

He has been with me 2 years but the behaviors are getting worse every passing month. He IS always in time out so I have to assume he doesn't like it here anymore. It will be a relief for sure. But I know life will be hell once I give notice so I am dreading it

I had a dcb that sounds very similar. He was here for almost 2 years, thinking that his behavior would get better but it got progressively worse. I don't blame the parents though, they were working with me on his behavior at every turn. They were actually very strict and went above what I would have done as a parent. Sometimes there are other circumstances that we may not be aware of. But as a doc provider we have the option to terminate and that's what I did. You will feel so relieved when you do if you are at the end of your rope.