How to approach?

[treeholm]

I am assuming the post containing rude comments to Skysue was removed, because I read the whole thread and can't find it either.
In any case, each one of us has a responsibility to only accept clients that we can be reasonably certain of being suitable for. This is not discrimination. I would not take them on, not because I am cold or heartless, but because lifting a heavy child would put my own health at risk, and that would ultimately inconvenience all my clients. If I put my back out, all of my children would be unable to come. They are between 1 and 2 years of age, and need to be lifted into play pens, high chairs, and lifted onto the change table. I protect the health of my back. It would be irresponsible of ME to accept these clients. If another provider has not difficulty lifting that weight, that is fine. This is in individual decision. But, I would be very annoyed if someone said I was discriminating against these children just because I knew they would not fit my program. We walk a lot, and if the child can't handle that, and I can't carry the child, do I deprive all my other children of our outings? Of course not. I will only take children who fit into my program. That also means, for example, I will not accept children who need a morning nap, nor will I accept children who have outgrown a nap. I guess I discriminate against several groups, if you want to use that term, but ultimately, it is my business! I am not a social worker, and it is not my job to "fix" children who have parents who don't care about nutrition. I respect the parents' right to parent as they see fit, and I respect my own right to accept parents who are on the same page with me about nutrition, or any other important issues.