How to approach?

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Treeholm you nailed what the real issue is: discrimination and our meaning of it.

You are right we do it all the time and that was the point many of us were trying to make but that got lost in the fact the child was overweight so it became all about that and not about the truth that the reason for the child not being accepted was because there was something about the child that meant they would not be a good fit for the program.

Morning nap, no nap, parent won't allow outings, parent demands outings, chid cries all the time, child is aggressive, child is too young to keep up with the other kids and program, child is too old and bored by being around younger kids ..... the list goes on. I know some of these reasons seem to not mean much or attack the child directly but a child that cries well it becomes all about the tears as no matter how sweet and cute child is or how nice the mom is the tears still annoy everyone and make for bad days.

Discriminating on the basis of race is wrong. Discriminating on the basis of sex, age, temperament, etc. is not only allowed in home daycare, it is encouraged because it is our job to help everyone have good days and that means that every child needs to be in the best program for them and not just any program. If the original poster had said she didn't want to take the 3 year old husky, overactive boy because her home was currently filled with only girls 2 and under very few would have jumped on her and said that is discrimination - they would have applauded her for taking the needs of everyone in her group into consideration over her desire to fill a space. Because the issue is the sensitive topic of obesity the thinking and replies got all messed up.