Heeeeeeeeelp!

[JennJubie]

Not sure trying to put a 3 year old in a hyper state in a playpen was a good idea. A sectioned off time out/cool down spot using the play yard would be one option that doesn't involve lifting - more just dragging. Some like this actually need to be restrained to calm them down. Get behind and cross the arms in front and bring them to their sides holding them so they can't move them. When the arms stop flailing, start to pull child down to the floor so they are sitting in front of you and your body is more or less enveloping them giving them security. Sounds bad I know but sometimes the only way to help them gain composure because self soothing is still beyond them and will need to be taught over time - not during a tantrum.

Good advice about holding him. Sometimes kids like this need the pressure of being held as Playfelt mentioned with their arms crossed in front of them. I wonder if you have a magic bag, or bean bag that is big enough to lay across his lap or his shoulders? My son has special needs, and they use the "weight snake" with him at school, and I've used it at home, as well. It helps them feel "grounded". I would also not suggest lifting him when he's in this state, mostly for the sake of your poor back, I've been there! Don't bother trying to talk to him while he's in the tantrum, either. Any talking through needs to happen when he is calm.

It definitely sounds like this little guy has a few issues going on.