Parents feel very insecure because everywhere they look they are bombarded by "experts" telling them one thing that contradicts the thing they heard yesterday - like when we complain that a new parent has read too many books. It is the old adage if you are doing something different than I am then one of us must be wrong. And if I am not the one that is wrong it must be you but I have to prove that it is you as that is the only way I can prove that I am right or at least not wrong. There seems to be no grey thinking of "just different forms of right" amongst parents. Moms want to be seen as super capable and that notion has been around since caveman days I would imagine in who could build the best fire, or skin the best hide or sew the straightest seam or ..... and our kids are a showcase for our greatness or lack thereof.

Dealing with it requires being confident yourself that what you are doing is what is right for your child and your family whether it is the same or different than what other families are doing. If your child is happy then that is all that maters. Ignoring is the best method as engaging is pointless since no one is going to back down to agree with the other person or appreciate being "educated" on the facts so best to just move on.