I would keep the letter short and to the point. If you want to discuss more in person that is fine. I don't think there is anything wrong with admitting that you can not handle this child. We are not perfect nor should we pretend to be. I am here to provide care for the children but I am also here to help the parents raise their child and I would have no problem telling them that IMO a centre would be best and I would explain why I feel this way. We are with these children for the majority of their day and I feel it is my responsibility to the parents to let them know how their child behaves while in my care. I prefer to work with my parents to help get to a solution we are both comfortable with.
If you feel that you can safely allow a week or two of care so that this family can find alternate care than I would offer that. If you think that care needs to be stopped immediately than do that and change your policy to reflect this issue. You know the child better than we do so make the call that you feel is best![]()