I have a 2 yo dcb who has been with me for just over 2 months.

At the interview, he was misbehaved and the parents did not do anything about it, other than occassionally yell at him. Big red flag that I ignored, I know. I figured that with consistent rules here I could 'train' him. I know, I know.

When he first started, he was always grabbing from the other kids, pushing, hitting... none of which I tolerate. He was always corrected immediately and redirected. He has also had a hard time following the rules.

After 6 weeks, his behaviours started to worsen. He refused to listen to me (very defiant) and was getting more aggressive with the other dcks... shoving one girl in particular.

I have talked to his mom about it, explained that I have zero tolerance for this aggression. I have been immediately removing him from the situation and telling him that he is not to hurt his friends.

I am his second daycare. The first, according to mom, had no structure and was just play and tv. All of the kids were around the same age. She asked her other provider if he hit while there and she said yes. Mom has also talked about getting him on a good and regular schedule (they are a busy family).

Anyways, things have not improved. He is targeting one of the dcks in particular with his shoving and I feel like I can't trust him to play nicely with the others.

I am leaning towards having another chat with mom and telling her that he has until the end of November to turn it around.

I try to create a 'yes' environment for the dcks... yet even that doesn't seem to work for this dcb. He knows the rules, he knows when he is doing something inappropriate because he will look at me to see if I am going to say something. I know testing is normal but this is driving me batty. I don't want to spend the entire day making sure that this dcb is doing something he shouldn't be. I don't feel like it's fair to him to spend the majority of his time being shadowed or restricted, either.

So wwyd?