How much/what do you tell the parents at pick up?

[5 Little Monkeys]

I don't tell the parents about minor pushing/crying/hitting etc unless it has become a huge concern. There are some things that are daycare specific and there isn't really anything the parent can do anyways.

However, I have a 3.5 yr old dcg who is a handful. I didn't tell her parents about some of her behaviour for awhile. She was not listening and was pretty much in time out all day though and so then I started to tell her parents about her behaviour. From talking to her parents about this I realized a big part of this was because she has no rules at home. Since bringing it up to her parents things have changed for the better. Her mom now asks for advice on what to do and has started to discipline her a bit. They very much spoil her and know it but aren't too keen on changing on that...well at least mom isn't.

I am a firm believe in working WITH the parents and this means including them in your decisions just as we appreciate that they include us. I would tell them the issues you have been having and what you plan on doing. I have a harness/leash for my 2 walkers and I have explained to the parents that I use this for safety. Maybe that would help him from not running away from you?

Yes, these are our homes and the children need to respect us and our rules but they are not our children and I believe the parents have the RIGHT to know what we do in our home and what sort of discipline/consequences we dish out.