How much/what do you tell the parents at pick up?

[apples and bananas]

If there is something that is happening that is either a danger to the child, other children or my home and I feel that the parents can do something to support the lesson that I am teaching then I will tell them, but it's more of a "can you work on this because johnny has been doing this lately..."

I don't mention minor infractions that I've dealt with. Yesterday one child continually poked another with a fork at the table. I had to remove him and give him the option of either going right to bed or behaving properly at the table. He went back, ate his lunch and pouted all the way to nap time. No reason to tell mom. It was handled and kids will be kids.

[bright sparks]

I don't mention minor infractions that I've dealt with. Yesterday one child continually poked another with a fork at the table. I had to remove him and give him the option of either going right to bed or behaving properly at the table. He went back, ate his lunch and pouted all the way to nap time. No reason to tell mom. It was handled and kids will be kids.

I appreciate that this was dealt with, but as a parent I have the right to know that this occurred and quite frankly should be made aware if my child is physically antagonizing another child. What happens if this comes up somewhere else and it is reported to the parent. They may become defensive thinking that this is very out of character for their child, when really it isn't but having that information withheld from them means that they are oblivious to the true behaviours their child is acting out in. Also there are things that the parent can do after the fact. They can reinforce appropriate behaviour at home through play and story time and the incident of poking another child with a fork could be a reason to discuss feelings, bullying and what it means to treat others with respect and appropriately. It's not about telling the child off or disciplining them, but acknowledging what happened and establishing that it's wrong and why they felt the need to do it. You dealt width it, but I think it is important that all caregivers back each other up so the child learns consistency and that's why the parent should know what happened.

If I find myself constantly reporting negative daily incidents with a problem child, I always make sure I tell the parents the good things to and I reinforce to them that I am not worried, and that I am sure it is a normal phase of childhood development and behaviour but that I want to keep them in the loop and let them know what I am doing as the child's dcp to help them overcome this. That way I have eased their fears that their child will be kicked out or that he is actually "bad" and it quite often will prompt the parent to tell me if other incidents have occurred to see if their is a pattern or if their is any change in home life which may be instigating this behaviour, which ultimately may help me to carry out behaviour modification with more success.

[apples and bananas]

I appreciate that this was dealt with, but as a parent I have the right to know that this occurred and quite frankly should be made aware if my child is physically antagonizing another child. What happens if this comes up somewhere else and it is reported to the parent. They may become defensive thinking that this is very out of character for their child, when really it isn't but having that information withheld from them means that they are oblivious to the true behaviours their child is acting out in. Also there are things that the parent can do after the fact. They can reinforce appropriate behaviour at home through play and story time and the incident of poking another child with a fork could be a reason to discuss feelings, bullying and what it means to treat others with respect and appropriately. It's not about telling the child off or disciplining them, but acknowledging what happened and establishing that it's wrong and why they felt the need to do it. You dealt width it, but I think it is important that all caregivers back each other up so the child learns consistency and that's why the parent should know what happened.

If I find myself constantly reporting negative daily incidents with a problem child, I always make sure I tell the parents the good things to and I reinforce to them that I am not worried, and that I am sure it is a normal phase of childhood development and behaviour but that I want to keep them in the loop and let them know what I am doing as the child's dcp to help them overcome this. That way I have eased their fears that their child will be kicked out or that he is actually "bad" and it quite often will prompt the parent to tell me if other incidents have occurred to see if their is a pattern or if their is any change in home life which may be instigating this behaviour, which ultimately may help me to carry out behaviour modification with more success.

If the 2 year old, who is still learning how to use a fork and the proper uses for it, becomes a consistent "poker" I'll be sure to let the parents know. I appreciate your response. However, I don't think that this is any different then taking a toy from another child. It wasn't done in an aggressive manner, it was more of a " hey... Look at me" There was no antagonizing going on and I don't think I have a 2 year old bully developing.

As far as what we discuss with the parents... it's really up to the caregivers discretion. I choose to deal with big things or consistent issues. I won't always discuss the first time, but I will discuss if it becomes a consistent issue.