How much/what do you tell the parents at pick up?

[5 Little Monkeys]

Playfelt...I agree that sometimes a parent can't do anything about the behaviour that happened at dc but they can watch for the behaviour at home. I don't agree with a parent disciplining a child after I have already disciplined at dc but if that is what they want to do than that is their choice as it is their child.

If you are disciplining a child at dc for hitting children for example but they aren't doing anything at home when he/she does it than it will send mixed messages to the child and the problem won't stop in my opinion. I may not discipline the same way as my handful's mom but at least we are both disciplining for the same misbehaviour now.

It totally depends on the behaviour though and what it is. However, from my experiences, if a child is allowed two separate sets of rules than more misbehaviour is likely to happen. It is better to be on the same page as the parents(or at least as close as you can get in some situations! lol) than more like a divorced couple where there are different rules at mom's than dad's. There are always going to be different rules between dc's and home but I think for major misbehaviour's, it is better to be in sync with the parents. Having said that, there are some parents who are just out to lunch and in major denial!!