I agree, if it works for you that is great but for me, I have friends and than I have a business and they are my clients. I am friendly with them but I am not their friend. I don't add any parents to my fb as that is my personal life not my business life. It might sound harsh but it really isn't. If I worked anywhere else it would be the same. It might change a bit after I have children as I'm sure my children will be friends with the children in my dc but I still can't see it being the same kind of friendship I have with my other friends. It is a different relationship to me.

I have had a friends son in my dc at one point and it was alright but I don't think I would do it for just any friend.

I have to say though, it wouldn't sit right with me having a glass of wine with a parent and than them driving home. I know one drink isn't going to do much but there are times where one glass of wine has made me tipsy lol. I would feel extremely guilty if anything happened. A drink with your meal and then driving home is different than just a glass of wine with nothing in my opinion. Each to their own though!!

With the original scenario though, I don't think it was a problem of having the parent come in but rather why the parent was coming in. Doing things to appease your child often results in a bratty child. My parents are more than welcome to come into my home and they have seen all of my home during the interview but that doesn't mean I want them coming in and helping me do my job. Come in, drop off your child, chat and then leave. Parents wouldn't stay to help at a daycare centre and even though this is my home, my business is separate from that.