Boundaries

[jammiesandtea]

Cfred, I admire your ability to find that many parents who align with you so well, follow the rules, and trust your judgment without questioning. I find there used to be more parents like that (though there were always a few bad apples, of course), but the last number of years many of the parents have been getting progressively more entitled, demanding, and unwilling to actually parent and discipline their children at all. I would describe myself very similarly to what you said about being no nonsense but also very maternal-like with the children, but I'm finding that more and more I have to keep the no nonsense part of me hidden somewhat from parents (though I would prefer not to), because when you have spaces to fill and lots of competition in the area, the parents have the upper hand, and nowadays many parents seem to have no concept of the value and importance of bringing up their kids with that no nonsense brand of instilling respect, empathy, kindness to others, and decent, cooperative behaviour. (as well as the natural pecking order of adults being the boss/leader, and children doing as they are asked/instructed. People seem to want to make children equal to adults now with respect to who runs the show and I just cannot subscribe to that.) Maybe I'm doing something wrong, in attracting this type instead of the few remaining who are still a bit more old-school. I do have one set of parents who are great... but others lately have left quite a bit to be desired.

Anyway, what you're doing sounds to be working for you.

As for me, I'm working on figuring out how to start a revolution in the opposite direction society has been going with respect to raising children ... not as far back as regular beatings and cold/harsh/uninvolved parental style, lol... but definitely back to adults-in-charge/consistent discipline/respect for others/elders etc. Who's with me? How do we turn this around? lol