VENT!!! new daycare kids

[madmom]

So I think attachment parenting has it's place, UNLESS you are sending your little one to daycare! I don't understand how a parent can send their baby off to care who has been breastfed to sleep their whole life. Do they not understand that I'm not a wet nurse. I am so seriously sick of hearing the new baby in my daycare scream, won't take a soother, doesn't have a bottle, what the Freakin' hell am I supposed to do.
Thanks for listening

[CountryKiddos]

If they are sending the baby to daycare without a bottle, then how are you supposed to feed the kid?? I am confused...

[5 Little Monkeys]

I think the child is breastfed and falls asleep while breastfeeding. Obviously that is not going to happen at dc so the child is having a tough time falling asleep for nap.

I'm not sure how to help that..could you put him to bed last and spend a few minutes rocking and comforting him? And then slowly cut that off?

[madmom]

the child is 12 months, eats pretty good independently but doesn't really "get" using a cup. I am not a big supporter of bottles at this age but it could be a comfort thing. I am just really frustrated today.

[mickyc]

I had someone reply to my ad a few months ago. She mentioned the phrase "Attachment Parenting". I was unsure what exactly it was so I googled it! I was terrified of the whole idea of taking a child who is being raised that way. I too don't understand how a child can be expected to function in a daycare setting who is still being breast fed, carried around all day, rocked to sleep and who sleeps with the parent.

If the child is constantly screaming and you have given it some time then I would tell mom it isn't working. It isn't fair to the child or those in your care to have to listen to a child scream all day every day.

[apples and bananas]

This is the wonderful thing about running my own daycare. I get to pick who comes and who doesn't.

I'm sorry you're having such a hard time. I hate transitioning. I wish they could all just magically walk through my door comfortable. I have a new one starting in a few weeks and I'm already anxious over the process. AND! My video monitor broke yesterday. They're replacing it under warranty, but until then I'm driving blind it feels like.

I don't know what I would do other then let him cry it out and occasionally comfort. If he doesn't want anything but mom, there's not much you can do until he gets into the swing of things. I hope it happens sooner then later for you.

[Fun&care]

I raised my babies following the attachment parenting style BUT I always knew from the get- go that I would always be a stay at home mom and that they would not be in daycare. I definitely don't think that attachment parenting is appropriate if they are going back to work at 12 months because that would just turn the poor child's world upside down. And as a side note, if I were to have a third child, I wouldn't do attachment parenting again.

[Other Mummy]

I'm a big advocate of Attached Parenting. I practiced it with my son, who was an only child for 6 years. He was never in a daycare setting, he was always with family. However, if you are placing your child in a daycare setting, then attached parenting is going to backfire. Big Time. If you are an "attached" parent then you need to stay home and raise your children or hire a nanny. A poor 12 month old going off to daycare whilst being raised in an "attached parenting" household is a set up for disaster. Mostly for the poor daycare provider.

Side note. I did not practice this type of parenting style years later when with my two daughters who came 20 months apart. It would have been exhausting and did not know at the time that I was opening my own daycare. I just imagined what difficulties they would have had in a group setting.

[Secondtimearound]

I have a 20 th anniversary baby and I was soo out of baby mode and child practises had changed soo much I felt like a first timer !!! She was nicknamed 'high maintenance' by the nurses and I was offended until I realized they were right ! Lol it took awhile for me to get the hang of things !!! My point is I wouldn't of sent her to daycare unless I thought she was prepared as much as possible !! It amazes me when a dcp says this is how he/she likes it and I'm thinking I'm a Dayhome not grandmas house !!! I want to make my dck safe , happy and learning and growing but can't accommodate 5 different ways of doing things !!

[madmom]

I love this! Thanks, Often at interview I nod my head a lot and then carry on with my way of doing things. Daycare is about learning to be part of a group. If your little prince/princess needs to have things done Mom and Dad's way then hire a NANNY.