Do you find your 'house rules' differ greatly from your day home families?

[torontokids]

This is the case here as well. I am very strict and I have had one set of parents say that I am a lot stricter then they are. Their kid has tried certain things with me but gets corrected right away. With his parents he won't wear a jacket, doesn't nap, go to bed, eat etc etc...I have some issues with him but for the most part he knows my rules and follows them. It can be hard though having a child with little expectations at home and seeing that spill into daycare.

[DayHomeMama]

Oh thank goodness for you ladies!! I'm glad to hear that I'm not the only 'strict' one! *phew* I was starting to second guess myself, it's just been bad the last couple of months with one dhp telling me that their child doesn't enjoy coming here as much any more, sometimes to the point of being upset. But dhm is willing to work with me on reminding dhc that there are different rules at day home than at home and dhc needs to be respectful and do as asked and expected. Funnily enough, this dhc is the one I have had in my care the longest, you think they'd be used to my expectations and routine by now. But dhd has started working out of town on an on/off schedule, so I think that may be part of it.

[5 Little Monkeys]

Oh thank goodness for you ladies!! I'm glad to hear that I'm not the only 'strict' one! *phew* I was starting to second guess myself, it's just been bad the last couple of months with one dhp telling me that their child doesn't enjoy coming here as much any more, sometimes to the point of being upset. But dhm is willing to work with me on reminding dhc that there are different rules at day home than at home and dhc needs to be respectful and do as asked and expected. Funnily enough, this dhc is the one I have had in my care the longest, you think they'd be used to my expectations and routine by now. But dhd has started working out of town on an on/off schedule, so I think that may be part of it.

My almost 4 year old goes to preschool 2x a week in the afternoons and for awhile was telling mom that she didn't want to come here, she only wanted ps. I know that she has fun here but she does get time outs and I am stern with her. Her parents are not at all, she runs their household so much it's sad to watch. I knew that she was only saying that because ps was new but it did make me feel bad. However, she is now saying that she wants to come here all the time and wants to spend the night. I'm guessing the ps teacher probably got firm with her too recently LOL. Her mom has said that I am more strict than her and I have explained why. Dad told mom that he thinks she is spoiled but mom said they are her children and she will spoil them if she wants too. They are likely not going to change so all I can do is be consistent with her here. It must be tough for her though because she has different rules at home, at dc and at ps.