Do you find your 'house rules' differ greatly from your day home families?

[DayHomeMama]

Mickyc, what is your progression of consequences? I usually remind/ask/direct once and then if they do not listen they receive a time out. I've had dhp complain that their child gets too many time outs, but this child is disrespectful, rude, physical with other children sometimes. I don't just give time outs for fun, but me reminding more than once is counterproductive I feel.

I agree! There won't ever be anyone who will do everything exactly the same as you. I am more strict than my daycare parents. I see how the kids become defiant and mouthy to their parents. They know they are never allowed to speak to me that way. I don't allow tantrums, bad behaviour, talking back etc. That doesn't mean it doesn't happen but they know that they will have consequences to their actions.

I quit worrying about telling the parents about these type of things. Obviously the parents let their child away with it at home and that is why they do it. I also am tired of excuses for the behaviour. I will only tell a parent if the behaviour has been bad enough to get a timeout.

[mickyc]

Mickyc, what is your progression of consequences? I usually remind/ask/direct once and then if they do not listen they receive a time out. I've had dhp complain that their child gets too many time outs, but this child is disrespectful, rude, physical with other children sometimes. I don't just give time outs for fun, but me reminding more than once is counterproductive I feel.

It depends what it is. I have the timeout chair as well as the couch. Timeout is for really bad behaviour, like hitting, throwing toys or having to be told multiple times about certain behavior.

If a child is being mouthy I usually give them a chance to rethink their behaviour and ask them to try again. If I get the same response or a similar one then they are to go to the couch and told they are not allowed to speak to me that way. If it continues then they get timeouts. It all depends on the tone and their behaviour at the time as well. Any child throwing a tantrum which involved screaming or kicking is immediately put in timeout. If they continue to behave that way on the time out chair the chair is moved into the nap room and they sit in there. It never gets to that point.

For the most part my group of kids right now is excellent. I don't have too many issues.