In our interview and during the follow up meeting of signing the contract they told me that he sleeps in their bed because they were so nervous about his heart murmur. Fair enough I can understand that but during the signing they told me he had been given the all clear. I asked if they were going to begin transitioning him into his own cot and sleep train him in time for coming to daycare and mum said she was going to spend some time looking into techniques and start a week later. That was just before thanksgiving and this is the first time I have heard any mention of attachment parenting.

Is it even a good idea putting a 12mth old child under that kind of stress to sleep train? He could cry for hours and I think that would be undue stress on him and would make me nervous with his murmur.

I just dont know what to do for the best. My biggest thing is just like Fun&care said about 12mths of no self soothing and bam into full time daycare. I appreciate your honesty f&c about how you wouldnt do it again due to separation issues.