Quote Originally Posted by AmandaKDT View Post

I have a space in our home that is only for my daughter to go if she wants some time to herself. It has toys and colouring books there that are only for her and she can go in her "quiet room" and close the door whenever she wants to.

I have a special helper of the day that gets to hold my hand when we go for walks or if I need help with things. It makes the older kids feel important and special, especially my daughter. It also makes them all more willing to do things if I ask my "special helper" to do it. It also gets rid of the problem of them fighting over who gets to do certain things.

I also don't tolerate any mishaviour from her.
This is what I am currently doing and has worked very well, but instead of my son having a space for himself, he has access to the rest of the house, including his room whenever he wants. My daycare area is gated in the main floor so he is the only one allowed to be outside this area. He is my helper too. I also do not tolerate his misbehavior, and he will have consequences every time he misbehaves. I am also currently enjoying having him at home with me and toying with the idea of home schooling him.

Today when a 16 mo dcg was picked up my son (2.5yo) "help" her to put her jacket up and gave her a kiss in the forehead. Her daddy was awwing them and telling my son that he was a good guy.