Potty Training - Crying DCK

[pink]

It's been a couple of weeks since, I have been trying to potty train a child. Every time I put her on the toilet she cries and Friday she was screaming. Apparently, she doesn't cry at home. It's because stressful, I spoke to the DCK parent and told her it's probably best that we stopped potty training, I don't want to hear her crying all day. Has anyone had any experience with this situation.

[nschildcare]

Are you using a seat on the toilet or a potty? My daughters were scared to sit on the big toilet and were much more comfortable on a potty.

Otherwise, I think you are correct in giving it a rest for a while and trying again later. Maybe if other dcks were training with her? Make it a group event.

[Fun&care]

If she is crying on the potty then she is not ready to potty train.

[2cuteboys]

I agree. I always tell parents that crying on the potty is unhealthy and I won't put a kid on if they're fighting it. It can lead to esteem issues that compound the potty training process, and can also signal the beginning of a power struggle. In my opinion it's best to wait until they are more ready.

I'd try focusing on the kids in care who wear underwear and giving them praise, reading stories about using the potty and hope that she gets a more positive view of it. You can also start making diaper changes less fun (if it is fun now). Just have a neutral expression and say very little during changes. Not give the cold shoulder, but just don't give any more attention that is necessary. You didn't mention how old, but I assume it's not a lateness issue. Some kids take longer than others, you don't want to get off on the wrong foot.

[apples and bananas]

I agree. You can't force a child to like it.

I would try a potty rather then the toilet if that's what you're using, just to get used to it. ( I don't normally recommend a potty. They're a pain to clean and in my opinion near impossible to deal with in a sanitary way when you have 5 kids in your care)

Otherwise I would lay off for a few weeks and re introduce slowly.

[5 Little Monkeys]

I had a child who was doing well with going on the potty. Then she started to cry every time I told her it was time to sit on it. I didn't like forcing her so I didn't. I told mom and she said yes she has started crying at home too and I just put her on it still. I told mom I would do that at dc too than (even tho it's not what I've been trained to do but she's not my child) and it was fine. It was about a week and she was over it and she is fully trained now. She was 2 in September.

[playfelt]

The one I had that started crying on the potty was because they had figured out the rest of the gang continued on playing without them so they were treating it like being punished - think time out and being put on a stool.

I just carried on, talked about being a big girl now and that as part of that peeing in diapers was no longer acceptable and talked about the privileges of being a big girl and how getting into underwear would show me she was big enough to do XYZ at my house - ie something I know she would like and the babies weren't allowed to do. If she was playing with a particular toy when it was potty time we started putting that toy into a basket and bringing it to the potty with us where she could see that no one else was touching it while she was gone and that helped a lot.

I get the not forcing them to sit on the potty if they cry but let's be honest they can cry all they want but we still make them go for naps, wear their hats or shoes outside, use utensils to eat meals, etc. so there comes a point where using the potty is just what one does end of story so to speak. I am not easily swayed by tears for anything.