Hi everyone,

Okay, so I have this family... 2 children boy and girl. The parents are VERY indulgent and feed their children INSANE amounts of sugar. I've spoken to mom about this, and she agrees that sugar is bad, but says she likes to use it to get the kids to listen... so typically the children are out of control... they co-sleep (sorry for those who are in favour of co-sleeping) and I think it's a BAD idea and especially in this case, the co-sleeping is for the parents NOT the children. BOTH children are severely constipated, when DCG DOES poop, it's a VERY small amount, but smells so vile the whole daycare stinks for hours afterwards. DCB is fairly easy-going while with me, but as soon as mom picks up, he becomes whiny and needy, he's almost 5 and he makes her change his shoes, jacket and carry his backpack, DCG starts doing everything she is not allowed to do - standing on things, breaking things, walking on the carpet with muddy outside shoes, screaming. If I am talking to mom, both children are insisting on her attention to the point of even pulling her face towards them. And what does she do? She just smiles and does NOTHING. DCG is defiant and destructive, her life is so out of control she seeks control by eating very slowly, not using the potty (she's in pull ups, so not a huge deal except that she KNOWS how to use the potty), being rude etc. I'm seriously at my whits end, and today just want to expel them - except that I simply cannot afford to. I need their fees to pay my bills. I worry about these children, their behavior is not their fault, it's their parents fault - what are they going to be like at 6, 10, 16?!?!!???

I am at the point that I just don't know how to turn this around, and I don't want to have the other children negatively influenced by this. Advice please!!! please please please!