So I signed a family up at the beginning of Oct for a January start. Some of you may recall me talking about how this family are paying for my husband to have a police check...anyway, I have been in touch with this parent this morning to give an update on the police check and I made some friendly enquiries into how they have been and how the sleep training is going. There child is 9 mths right now and until about 6 wks ago was being tested as he has a heart murmur. He has been given the all clear now. From birth this child has been sleeping in bed with his parents and she breastfeeds him sips through out the night to comfort him rather than to feed him because he is actually hungry. Okay a little of my own feelings came out then but over all I am trying hard to keep my opinions separate.The mother responded to my email saying how sleep training is going well following the attachment parenting principles which encourage close physical contact with the mother in particular for the first few years of life. For daytime naps she bounces on an exercise ball to settle him and then lays him down to sleep. So at no point has this child ever self soothed and nor do they plan to train him to do so. She said that she thinks he will be fine here but honestly I don't think he will at age nearly 12 mths suddenly be able to go from no self soothing to getting himself off to sleep. Also if its not being reinforced at home its just going to be harder for him and me.

Now I actually respect her choice to parent however she likes even though it is not my style and although there may be benefits to it there are also likely problems that will occur as a result. I do not see this translating well into a daycare setting. She says she doesnt expect me to do any of these things and that after a week or two she thinks he will be fine. She obviously just came up with this out of thin air because I just dont think so. Do I even take this child and try or do I just be honest with the parents and refund their deposit?

Any thoughts/experiences?