My first client was similar to this mom. Lots of theatrics, men coming and going and lots of police involvement in her life. Her kids, fortunately, were wonderful so I put up with her because I knew that my daycare was a good constant in their lives. HOWEVER, if they had been little hell raisers like the two you have I would have terminated care just due to the disruption and disobedience and lack of respect for your home. Just think of the blessed relief you will feel when they are gone.