Thank you for your support !!! I
Feel badly , like I should be able to be that consistent role figure for them . But last weekend I met dcm and dcks and 'dad ' at the $1 store and they wouldn't say hi , ran around !! All of them , 'dad' included and he kept saying , kids should be loud and have fun !! Which I'm sure was aimed at me , as I do not allow them to run inside . Dcm just smiled !!!!!
I watched people's faces and employees and they were def not happy !! So I felt like ok not just me !!!
Today they came eating a bag of sugary cereal in a Baggie and started whining about breakfast ( I do feed them , but when I'm feeding my own dd ) and woke up my dd and my husband ( who works nights ) by jumping and fooling around . I drop off the dcg at school with no hat sometimes , no mittens ( she packs her own backpack ) and I feel guilty !!! I have been dropping her off as close to the bell so she doesn't have to wait outside ( been so cold here ) and she has been so upset we are 'late ' . I told dcm I'm doing this as she doesn't have appropriate winter wear and her response was , ' well she hasn't complained to me about it ' meaning the dcg hasn't complained she's late !!! Not oh thanks , or making sure she has the appropriate clothing !!
Just writing this , I think has helped me and getting your feedback !!!!
Somehow I feel responsible , like there is no parent !!!