My Daycare Dad Died

[mickyc]

Such a sad story.

I actually had a mom pass away. It was the first child I had. He was here part-time for 4 months. He was going to be gone for a few months as mom was off work for a bit. A month later I got a call saying mom had passed away suddenly and could I take the boy back sooner than anticipated. I was devastated. She was the same age as me. I attended the funeral and sent flowers. I have cared for the boy up until June of this year.

[mimi]

So sorry to hear of this father's death. Hopefully, mom and son have a lot of support during this sad time. What a shock this must be for everyone involved.

[Secondtimearound]

I'm so sorry !!!! What a tragic loss !! I feel for her and her family and for you as well !!! Sometimes I feel so snug and safe in my home !! I don't listen to the tv all day and feel sheltered from a lot of outside worries ! So when something happens I can imagine it shaking our sheltered foundations !!! It's unsettling !! A scary reminder life sometimes is hard and sad , when a lot of our time is spent with happy little kids !!!

[DarthLaurie]

Oh, what a horrible thing to happen. My heart goes out to you, I understand the sense of guilt even though it had nothing to do with you.....I had a wonderful little boy that I looked after and when he was 22 mths old I called the mum to pick up early as he had a fever and even after tylenol it didn't come down plus lethargic etc. that was on the Wednesday, he was kept home Thurs and Fri (both Wed evening and Thursday was taken to clinic/dr and told just viral nothing but ride it out), he was admitted on Friday incase of being dehydrated, late Sunday night he was diagnosed with Menengitis and nothing they could do as he was brain dead. He was taken off life support and passed away on the Tuesday. It was the most incredibly awful thing to happen. For days and weeks I questioned that I did everything right but had major guilt even though I know that there was nothing I could have done differently and that I wasn't the cause or the blame of this tragic situation. On the positive side, mum has since had another beautiful boy who I also look after and a wonderful little girl who I will get this summer

[5 Little Monkeys]

Darthlaurie...that is horrible!! Definitely not your fault at all but I can understand why you would feel guilt and question your actions. I know I would too! That is awesome that mom had more children and stayed with you! Obviously she really respects you and doesn't hold you at fault...even though it most certainly wasn't your fault in the least!!

[ttremble88]

Darthlaurie, that is incredibly sad. It is crazy how thing work out.

[Crayola kiddies]

ttremble did you ever find out what happened?

[ttremble88]

I did not. The mom has not replied to my last email, not surprisingly. And I only had him for 2 half days and 1 full day, so I did not know them long enough to feel comfortable to ask. She has said that she will be in contact, I am assuming when she decides that she is ready to return to work. Maybe she will feel comfortable enough to talk about it then. But I am assuming that it had to be a work related accident.

[Crayola kiddies]

how very sad !!!

[Daycare123]

wow-this is heartbreaking and it is not your fault