Update: DCB has been drooling and hanging is tongue out constantly. He has developed huge sores on his chin. I mention it to the parents and I just hear "we hope he isn't like his brother" and "he and his brother have these habits they just seem compelled to do" They don't seem to want to get help at all. I don't have the training to deal with his special needs. Lately things have been hard with him, I try to talk to him and every answer is "yes" or ":uhhhh" When he needs to use the bathroom he stands in front of me and stares until I ask if he needs to go. He has been crying at drop off lately too. He followed me around crying for 20 min this morning but I couldn't get him to tell me anything. Then he had a runny nose and I gave him a tissue. He asked me what he was suppose to do with it. I have had him for 1.5 years and he doesn't seem to have advanced much and lately it almost feels like he is going backwards. I am just really frustrated. I don't know if I should terminate them or what. I feel so stressed whenever he is here and the other kids almost immediately start misbehaving and fighting when he shows up. I am doing dayhome so that I can stay home with my lil ones, but we aren't having fun and doing all the crafting ans learning games I had envisioned doing together, (both the dcb and dcg can't seem to do crafts, reading books is a chore as well, as they fight it and get up wander away, or sit and cry) *sigh* Just needed to vent really, If anyone has advice, I'd love to hear it. Thanks everyone.