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Euphoric !
Give me strength....PLEASE!!
This is primarily a vent, but any advice would also be gladly appreciated.
I pride myself on being patient and have great amounts of experience sleep training children and shutting my ears to the cries during a transition period. I keep great lines of communication going with parents so we can work together with their child in all areas of development.
I have 2 problem children right now that literally have me wanting to scratch my eyes out. Child 1 is the one I posted about prior to Xmas when mum dropped the bombshell on me that she was attachment parenting her son. He is in his 3rd week. Wk 1 and 2, W&Th, Wk 3 T,W,Th and then next week he will be here M-Th. His regular hours will be 7:30-4:30 but during these 4 weeks he has been 9-3.
This child doesn't just cry, he absolutely wails. He doesnt even stop if I hold him. He climbs all over me when I hold him still crying and there is nothing I can do to sooth him. Last week I started putting him down for his morning nap within 5 minutes of his arrival. He typically goes off to sleep within 5-10 minutes so yes he is obviously tired but when he wakes after an hour or so, he just picks up where he left off screaming the house down. It is SOOOO loud. I can manage to shut him up temporarily with a cracker in a highchair in front of the tv which I have had to resort to since he just upsets the entire group and its insane trying to calm them all. He will literally screw his face up and cry when I just look at him, thanks kid lol, so at lunch I can't make eye contact with him when I spoon feed him. He goes down for a good 2 hours in the afternoon which is a well needed break from the screaming. He has been getting up earlier than the rest because he is collected earlier and he is only marginally better and it doesn't last long. I have him with his coat and shoes on ready and waiting for mum at pick up. Now lets be clear, this kid is not miserable as in crying his little heart out. There are some tears but its more of an "I'm seriously pissed off" kind of cry/wail/scream. He is 1 on Feb 1st also. Quite simply and obviously this kid just wants his mum. Today at pick up as soon as he was in his mothers arms he had the most wicked smile on his face. I was livid!
He is being attachment parented so sleeps in bed with mum every night, and is not on any kind of routine. He naps at different times, I asked for a weeks detailed schedule to be brought on day one which shows his nap times and duration's along with other things, and he on demand feeds and she has made it no secret that when he wants to breastfeed he just pulls her top down. She has also told me she intends to breastfeed until 2 years. That is entirely up to her as she is his parent after all but when their parenting style effects my day then it becomes my problem.
I know I should just give notice already, but I wanted to give him, and them a chance because you never know he could have transitioned in within a couple of weeks of a good steady routine at my house but this is just unbelievable. Any suggestions on how I get through the day tomorrow?? He is never going to settle in if he just gets put to bed as soon as he comes in, I'm just honestly unable to offer him any kind of satisfactory comfort. I have had criers before but they usually just want to be picked up or have you close by in their line of sight so its much easier to wean them off this kind of attachment but this is a whole other thing. Number 2 child is a whole other issue and I am just positively exhausted right now so will save that for tomorrow. I'm not sure I will even be able to make it through the 2 weeks notice period and stay sane?!
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