Quote Originally Posted by sunnydays View Post
I have had screamers before and it is no fun! Just to give you a little hope though, I had one little guy who cried all day ever day for close to 4 weeks...but by the end of 4 weeks he finally settled. I thought about terminating many times...warned the parents...etc. In the end, I am glad I stuck it out because he is 2 now and such a delight and I LOVE his parents. The only thing I can think to suggest is, have you tried putting him in a baby carrier? If he is happy there, it could give you a break from the crying, let him observe the daycare from a secure place, and help him bond with you. I often use a carrier during transition with AP and non-AP babies...for most I find it helpful during that first month or so when they are feeling so insecure.
Obviously, if you have tried everything and nothing works, then termination may be the only way if you cannot find common ground with the parents.
I want to clarify though as I explained in my original post, this child doesn't stop crying if I hold him. He stops instantly and smiles when his mom arrives. I have had new starters cry for as long as 10 weeks but there were things I could do to sooth them whether it be hold them, sit right next to them and play 1 on 1, or even have them sit in a highchair and observe from a distance...I've had two dcks who have been happy in a highchair and then I have gradually distanced myself from them and brought them out in small increments to join the group. This boy is 12mths next week so carrying him around on my back or front isn't good for me physically. Also this parent is still attachment parenting at home so nothing I do is being reinforced so I'm doing all this hardwork to have him settle and be happy and when he goes home all my hard work and effort is undone.