This is the letter I plan to give to the mother of my AP kid at pick up today. I am going to talk to her about everything in it but I want her to have something in writing to take away with her too. I have a good feeling that she will panic and look for alternative care as she returns to work in 1 week rather than doing her part to help at home. Dcb didnt eat yesterday as he was screaming so much and today I managed to get a few mouthfuls in but he was screaming so he was red as a beetroot......his mother told me that last night she had a great sleep as her hubby slept in the spare bedroom snuggled up with the little guy all night...Bloody Hell woman, what the heck are you creating to then bring to group care. His inability to self sooth is so problematic when he is at the point of being 12 months old and 100% reliant on his mother or father for bringing him comfort, rather than developing some skills he will need in life to sooth himself to some degree. I have restrained from voicing my opinion on AP to the family as obviously and honestly it is totally up to them what they do, but I cant hold back here anymore on my feelings. I have a right to them and I have this perspective of how debilitating it actually is to his healthy social development. I'm sure he will get over it in years to come but at what expense?....anyhow, rant over just wanted to get that off my chest and now back to being professional

Here is the letter...I'd love some feedback if you think I am missing anything or need to rephrase it. It's just to back up what I say at the door which will no doubt be much more detailed conversation

This letter is to confirm what was discussed at the door during pick up today. In the best interests of Johnny, the other children and myself, the next two weeks will be a final transition period for Johnny. During this time and by the end of the time period if I do not see an improvement in Johnny settling in and being able to happily partake in the daycare day at least some of the time, then I will no longer be able to provide care in my daycare for Johnny. I have tried the gradual entry method as per your request but so far there has been no success. After 3 weeks of part time followed by two consecutive weeks of M-Th, the first week still being shorter days of 9-3 and the second week being full days of 7:30-4:30, this is ample time to see a change in Johnny and I sincerely hope that he can settle in as I think he could be a great addition to daycare. Unfortunately, if he is not able to, then daycare will cease immediately, his last day of care being Thursday 6th February 2014. This notice is in place of the two weeks termination notice and throughout the two weeks I will definitely keep you verbally updated as to how he is doing and hopefully things will work out. I understand that this is a difficult situation for you to be placed in, but I have three other children and their family’s needs to think about, so it is important to think about the effects of a child not settling in and how that impacts the dynamic and well being of the group.

Kind Regards