Help - appropriate play

[AmandaKDT]

I have one 4.5 year old and two just turned 4 year olds (as well as two 20 month olds). I don't usually allow them to even ask for a toy that someone is playing with, they have to wait until the other is done with it (put it away, put it down and walked away) before they can have a turn - otherwise they just stand there and keep asking for when it is their turn. If they continuously ask for the toy, they don't get to have it at all.

The same things goes for asking for something that is put away, they ask me once and if they keep asking they don't get to have it.

I would approach your situation with giving the boy one reminder about how to behave and try to redirect him elsewhere, and if he doesn't listen he loses his chance to play with the toy and gets a time out.

[Samantha33]

I have one 4.5 year old and two just turned 4 year olds (as well as two 20 month olds). I don't usually allow them to even ask for a toy that someone is playing with, they have to wait until the other is done with it (put it away, put it down and walked away) before they can have a turn - otherwise they just stand there and keep asking for when it is their turn. If they continuously ask for the toy, they don't get to have it at all.

The same things goes for asking for something that is put away, they ask me once and if they keep asking they don't get to have it.

I would approach your situation with giving the boy one reminder about how to behave and try to redirect him elsewhere, and if he doesn't listen he loses his chance to play with the toy and gets a time out.

Exactly! I deal with this the same way. I also have a child who wants everything everyone else is playing with. An only child. I've had this child for over a year, 2 1/2, this child understands everything and acts like he/she knows nothing. Coddling at home by the older sister isn't helping. I think everyone gives in. So we need to be strong to teach them that at our house this is the way it is.